“A few years ago Rick and I realized that something needed to be done to increase the love and harmony in our home! We 
were tired of listening to constant complaining whining, arguing, and yelling amongst our children. We were sick of having to ask our children five times to do something and we were tired of nagging , cajoling , bribing , yelling and giving time-outs”.!
These were the exact words of my friends a few years back. I understood his pain and frustration and tried to give him same important advices. What follows below are a few essential tips of ideal parenting .
(1) Wishes of a Child should Always be granted
Every week , it should be made sure, that a minimum of ten hours should be taken out by the parents – to do exactly what your child desires, without interruptions or distractions – even if , he/she wants to play a game with you which you hate or build block towers and then knock them all down.
(2) “I love you .”- should be the way to start and end each day
Generally, we parents, have the notion that we show our love for our children through our actions, but kids want and need to be told that they are loved.
(3) Safety measures should be thought beforehand
When a child gradually grows, we, as parents should anticipate what are his/ her next steps would be and act accordingly. If your nine-month old is about to stand then it’s time to put up the gate cover, smoothen the sharp corners of the tables and keep pot handles turned away from the edge of the gas-burner.
(4) Don’t punish
Every child has a cup that needs to be filled- and refilled with love, affection, attention and respect. A rough day, a big frustration, at times, induces us to use harsh words that empties the cup. If your child is acting up, give him a hug, listen to him and spend time together. He will be more cooperative and you’ll both feel closer to him/her.
(5) Look the other way
Once in a week, you should ignore your child’s transgressions like table manners, forgetting to clean up, right away – and remind yourself you are not perfect either.
(6) You should be your baby’s favorite toy
Apart from offering playthings to your child always, amuse him yourself. After all, you make sounds, you move, you can take turns with him and respond to what he does, and you’re warm, soft and safe with him/her.
(7) Photo albums should be made and preserved
As a parent you should take at least two hours a month to create lasting, organized family memories. While you gather the photos or souvenirs, you will have the opportunity to reflect on the precious moments of your life.
(8) Coin a nick-name
We as a parent, should call our child b a special moniker that will reflect the unique connection to him/her. You should always remember that a child with many names is a child loved many times.
(9) Making sacred of family rituals is necessary
At least, once a week, you should do an activity together, such as taking a stroll along with your family, reading a book aloud, driving to the woods or having Sunday breakfast at the same restaurant or coffee shop. These memories will be treasured the most by your kids.
(10) Amendments should be made on the parents part also
“I am sorry. I messed up.” This is the most important thing, that you, as a parent should tell your child. Admitting you’re wrong, also gives your child some kind of trust, lovingness and his/her right to make mistakes sometimes.
(11) Don’t be over –protective
Shielding your child from all disappointments, failures or stressful situation should not be the order of the day. You should make your kids learn how to handle difficult situations in order to cope with life’s challenges.
(12) Love should be unconditional
You should love your child just because he /she was born to you and not because he plays the piano or aces math tests. Tell him often that you would love him no matter what grades he got and that your love for him grows bigger with each passing day.
Parenting is all about patience, observation, common sense and above all, love.
Plus for added fun it’s a guessing game as well! It doesn’t matter how much planning
You’ve done how you’ve decided that your baby’s first year should go. The fact is, your baby is the one who is going to decide many things because he/she is an our individual with his /her own likes, dislike and personality.
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