By Soumitra Chakraborty
“Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” - Elizabeth Stone. Such is the intense and delicate relationship that a parent bears with the child. A new-born child of today, is the future of tomorrow. Therefore a good up-bringing of the child is absolutely necessary. Parents must put their hearts-out in seeing that a child gets enriched mentally, physically, and also gets proper moral and ethical values of life.
Valuable Tips For Ideal Parenting
1) Physical Presence : Children want and need the parents to be physically present in front of their eyes, right from infancy. In fact, when a child is in his/her mother’s womb, he or she, happens to hear the voices of the parents and starts distinguishing between the world on one side and parents on the other. It is absolutely necessary, from that time onwards, that parents do maintain a warm relationship amongst themselves.
2) Listening to and Understanding your child : Just being physically present doesn’t always serve the purpose. You have to listen to almost everything what your child wants you to understand, and interact with the infant as much as possible. This develops a proper bonding and communication between you and your child.
3) Being Supportive Towards Your Partner : Whether you are living together with your partner or not, should be the secondary issue for an ideal parent. The Parents should work together for the welfare of the child. Differences of opinion are a normal feature of parenthood. The most important thing is how the parents resolve or settle the differences that matter. In any case, exchange of respective ideas between the parents should he done in private and no confrontation whatsoever should take place in front of the child. This is just to preserve a feeling of emotional stability and security in the child.
4) Interact With the Child as much as Possible: One of the best ways of developing a good bonding with your child is to play with him/her. In other words, at times, parents do need to behave like children to maintain a close and proper interaction with them. Parents have to enter the child’s world in order to understand and exchange ideas and this in turn makes the child feel secure as well as it gives a sense of comfort and enjoyment to him/her.
5) Teach By Actions : Parents must keep in mind that children are hard core followers of their actions. They observe and follow each individual action of the parent and imitate them. So, it is very essential for a parent to act, behave and socialize properly, so that the child can pick up the best from them.
6) Love : The Best Tool To discipline The Child - To discipline is to guide and bring the best out of your child. Parents should be caring and loving enough, so that the child is inclined to listen to what they say. Talking in a harsh tone, or in a commanding attitude or forcible implications to certain aspects may have and adverse effect on the child’s all-round development.
Parenthood is never smooth and easy as becoming a parent is. It should always be remembered that if one can survive parenthood, one can survive anything.
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Posted by Vaijayanti on May 10th, 2008 at 1:16 am:
A nice and well defined article on what ideal parents should be.But this is a more general view on parenting, where the individual roles of parents as a father or mother is not depicted.We expect a more focussed standpoint on parenting role of a man as a “father” here.Ideal Fatherhood does play a very important role in the overall development of a child.Looking forward to better ideas from the author.